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I really loved the squat toilets when I lived in Tokyo (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Yes, I do full toilet sessions. I wasn’t able to write about it on my old wordpress dot com blog because they thought it was obscene and made me remove any mention of toilet anything. I used to do this type of session a lot but I haven’t heard from my regular toilet boys in a while. I sort of miss doing brown showers. I still do golden showers pretty often, and I enjoy those too but it’s just not the same.

At my dungeon space we have one of those camping and/or disabled toilets where it’s a seat with a bucket underneath. For folks that enjoy a true toilet role play this is a fantastic way to set your face and mouth as my toilet bowl while I sit on the seat and enjoy myself. I also really enjoy the squat toilet experience. I really prefer the Asian squat toilets over the Western sitting toilets. I think it’s much cleaner and healthier to squat over a porcelain hole where no part of the body touches the toilet than to sit my bare skin on something that everyone else has had their bare skin touching. If I ever have the opportunity to build my own bathroom I am definitely putting in a squat toilet. Perhaps you would like the squat toilet experience? I enjoy just squatting over and releasing my precious Goddess waste on a good kinkster. I just don’t like it when I’m trying to do my business and a naughty tongue starts poking around. I just can’t concentrate when someone it touching me as I try to shit or piss.

If you are not able to see me for a toilet session in person than I encourage you to call my toilet talk line 1-877-447-8427 ext. 21237

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I’ve had chastity on the brain for a few weeks now and I am so lucky to have some wonderful slaves to indulge in this passion with me. Perhaps you think you would be a good chaste submissive? Read my chastity contract first. I do take long distance chastity subs. If you’re still just curious or otherwise not in a position to commit to a full chaste relationship you may enjoy a carefully culled list of chastity reading material and blogs:

A chastity fantasy story from Femdom Magazine

“Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders” Book Review This book is at the top of my wishlist currently. Click to send it to me!

Chaste sissy blog (I love it!)

Delving into Deviance- keeping the boyfriend in chastity

Tantra School Blog- the importance of chastity in tantra

 Chastity Devices Reviewed Part 1 and Part 2 in depth and personal

I have so many more chastity links, blogs and my own personal opinions. Maybe I’ll do a weekly chastity topic blog? We will see how long I can sustain this obsession, or rather how long my subs can sustain it.

When I was doing webcam a lot smoking was a popular request. I keep cloves and herbal esctasy cigarettes on me for when I go out to clubs and bars. It’s always nice to indulge in a treat every now and then because I quit smoking years ago. Last year I filmed a smoking fetish video and never did anything with it. I really didn’t like the options I had for selling videos at the time. Now I’m on ExtraLunchMoney.com and so I can offer all my personal videos and take requests for custom videos. They also allow peeing video so I’m going to have a lot of fun. So far I only have one video up and two available things to request. Take a look at the Redheaded Goddess in Glasses Smoking and let me know what other fetish videos you might enjoy seeing.

I love chastity because it’s such an efficient way to humble a man and put him in his place. Chastity is a good lesson in self-control and discipline. With long term use it teaches a man to treat women better because all of a sudden his cock is no longer the center of the universe. He will be a more loving and compassionate sexual partner to a woman because sex is no longer about getting him off. His source of masculine power is locked up by a woman and he can only regain that power by following her instructions and pleasing her. However, chastity does not in any way make a man into a woman. Being a woman is more than just lacking a dick, so if a man desires to be a woman or be more feminine there are additional steps.

Are you interested in being in chastity to Me? I love taking chastity slaves and I have a special program set up to do chastity long distance. You will need a chastity device. I suggest purchasing one from eXtreme Restraints. The CB series ones are very popular, but make sure you get one that locks and the plastic serial number locks. The plastic locks allow you to remove it easily in case of an emergency but will still know you removed it because I will see a different serial number when you put the device back on. For example if you only want to be in chastity while at work or while on a trip away from home that can be accommodated by this plastic lock option. We will communicate by phone, cam, text and when I have my long distance program ready I will be available for email sessions.

Ready for the contract? Get your copy here

Further questions? Post a comment or message me privately.

I get a lot of guys that enjoy sexting about their kinks and fetishes so I got a special phone line just for that. It makes it easier for me to text when I’m “on the clock” rather than getting texted when I’m trying to enjoy dinner with friends, have a nice hot shower and otherwise maintain some boundaries in my life. I invite you all to start texting me at 323-426-5893 to keep in touch while I get my long-distance and online slave program up and running.

I’ve been a busy Mistress these past few weeks and I’d like to keep the momentum going! I have some wonderful surprises up my sleeve for long-distance and online submissives that I will be revealing in the next week or so. For those of you that are in town for the GDC, welcome to San Francisco my beloved freaks! If you book a session for me to see you in your hotel room I will give you a bonus 30 minutes of playtime for each 60 minute session you book. This applies to hotel sessions only. Sessions in my dungeon are the same regular 60 minutes for $200 tribute. I provide many kink, fetish and BDSM services in hotels including but not limited to strap-on, foot worship and toilet play. Get in touch with me right away to book your session. Even if you’re not here for GDC I will offer the same special to all clients in hotels March 1-10.

I will be available for a limited number of sessions in San Jose between February 16-19, and you MUST book your session before the 16th. Traveling and hotel rooms and such.

A few posts back I wrote a little bit about how difficult it is for men in this patriarchal society to be put in positions of power by default because of their gender. For guys that are more submissive this is a very difficult position to be in. Well, I found a really excellent blog article by a man experiencing this exact issue in his life. Torafu- tiger in bondage: Power Play.  Balancing society’s expectations and our own personal feelings is complicated, but people manage it all the time. The playspace is a world outside of time and space where we can transform and release our secret selves, safe from the outside world.

(and if the author of the article is who I think he is, I met him once briefly a few years ago, and he’s very sweet and cute.)

I’m really surprised how many of my clients and submissives admit to having financial problems during or after a session. I’ve heard about foreclosures, expensive car repairs, and many many clients with enormous credit card debt. One of the credit card debt clients might have been talking about that as part of his findom fetish, but the others I believe were genuine problems and not a fetish. As a stripper in the months before September 2001 guys would brag about investments. As a prodomme 2011 I hear about the financial problems. It’s sort of strange. On one hand it makes sense that a guy under a lot of stress wants some BDSM relief, but it’s also an entertainment expense that could be taken out of the budget when you need expensive car repairs. It does make sense that after a session a guy feels enough relief, comfort and trust that he feels he can open up about a recent foreclosure.

It makes it really difficult to play findom when I know that so many guys are really honestly struggling and unhappy with their situations and not getting off on it. I’ve been very concerned that my rates are fair and reasonable for clients with a wide range of income levels, but it’s starting to get difficult to wallet rape the guys that like it. I’m a lot more cautious about findom clients right now. I guess I’m just a very sensitive domme. I am very happy that my Spanish foot slave got accepted into a credit consolidation program that I went through a few years back. Maybe I need to approach findom in a way that’s more about control and management.

(What is findom anyway?)